When climbing the corporate ladder, it can feel impossible to maintain a sustainable work-life balance. You’re passionate about what you do but often find yourself chasing the next big achievement at the expense of your personal time, because you’re eager to climb the next rung. Part of the problem is that you’re likely fueled by the adrenaline of achievement. While this adrenaline rush has helped catapult you towards success, it isn’t sustainable to maintain over the long-term. Developing a self-care practice can help you refuel to stay motivated and avoid burn-out. Here are five simple yet effective steps to get started:
1. Shift your perspective on what it means to rest.
What are your beliefs about rest? Does the mere mention of the word make you cringe? For many of us ego-driven do-ers, rest has a bad rep. We see it as a sign of defeat. An indication that we didn’t have the stamina to persevere in the pursuit of our accomplishments.
But therein lies the root of the problem - rest is not for the weak. It’s actually easier to get caught within the busyness of life than to erect the necessary boundaries to tune in to your needs. Giving yourself permission to slow down often requires more strength than persevering does. It’s like Newton’s First Law of Motion: “An object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.”
It begins with letting go of the belief that you have to constantly hustle to be successful. While at times it may feel like it, you are not responsible to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. You are one person and can only do so much. It’s difficult but, try to instead embrace the belief that slowing down is essential to speeding up.
2. Discover what fills your cup.
When life gets too busy, it can leave you feeling emotionally, mentally, and physically depleted. There never seem to be enough hours in the day to do everything that you want to do AND to do it all well. You get anxious about the quality of your output so you start to rob yourself of your personal time to ensure that you’re delivering the best quality that you can. But when you try to draw back, a new fear creeps in - will they think that I’m delivering enough? And suddenly you’re stuck in a catch 22: do you allow a few balls to drop and run the risk of being judged by your colleagues and clients or do you sacrifice your sanity and soldier on?
If you’re at the point where you feel like you have nothing left to give - that’s your body’s way of communicating to you that it’s time to slow down and fill your cup.
To fill your cup means to replenish your mental, emotional and physical states of being. How you do that is unique to you. What self-care activities help you recharge?
Here are some ideas to figure out what works well for you:
Take a bath
Read a book for pleasure
Spend time outdoors
Take a 24 hour digital detox
Sing in the shower
Take a nap
Cook a nice meal
Watch your favourite show
Do an intense workout
Write yourself a love letter
Listen to a podcast
Spend time with family
Clean your living space
Put on a face mask
Get a massage
Create a gratitude list
Drink a glass of water
Buy yourself flowers
Go to the gym
Call someone you love
Eat a healthy meal
Listen to a guided meditation
Plan a date night
Pick up a new hobby
Create a vision board
3. Schedule non-negotiable ‘you’ time.
Once you get a feel for what types of self-care activities fill your cup, it’s time to schedule non-negotiable ‘you’ time in your schedule. Why is it non-negotiable? Because it’s a promise you’re making to yourself. Treat the time you spend on yourself as you would a client meeting.
On Sunday evening, take 10-15 minutes to plan your upcoming week. What types of self-care activities will set you up for success? Select one activity that you can accomplish each day. While that may seem like a lot, remember that there’s no minimum time requirement - it’s just important to get in the habit of creating time for yourself.
Add each activity to your calendar just as you would any other commitment. If you’re visual, colour code your non-negotiable ‘you’ time and/or add an emoji to the title that will serve to remind you of the priority of the commitment.
The following Sunday evening, take some time to reflect.
How did each activity make you feel?
How are your overall energy levels this week?
Did you miss any activities this week? If so, why?
Are there any changes you need to make for the next week?
Then proceed with planning your upcoming week, making any necessary changes to your schedule based on your observations.
4. Build a support system.
It’s one thing to make a commitment to yourself, but it’s another thing to stay accountable to others. Communicating the importance of establishing a self-care routine is an opportunity to invite others to support you and help you stay on track.
Who is already in your corner? Start by making a list of all the people you currently interact with. This can include anyone from family to colleagues and acquaintances.
After you create your list, reflect upon the following questions:
Do I trust this person?
Does this person respect me?
Can I be myself with this person?
Does this person make me feel good about myself?
Add a star next to each person who makes the cut. This is your support system. Pick one person, share your struggle and ask them if they can help you stay committed to your self-care practice. Who knows, you may even inspire them to join in and carve out more time for themselves - causing you both to stay accountable to one another.
5. Celebrate your wins.
Developing a new practice takes time and patience - especially when it comes to prioritizing yourself. While it’s a nice idea to strive for work-life balance, it’s not always realistic. Some weeks may not look so pretty. Others might be a dream. If you have perfectionistic tendencies, cut yourself some slack during the process if things don’t go as planned.
There is so much power in the journey. We tend to get so wrapped up in the end result that we completely lose sight of the magic that happens when you allow yourself to unfold. Savour each step and celebrate the small wins to remind yourself that you are enough.
You are a powerful, driven person who deserves to experience the love you so readily infuse into your work. Give yourself permission to come home to yourself.
This article was written by Stella Habib exclusively for LADIES iN FINTECH. Stella Habib is an intuitive designer, yoga & meditation teacher, and energy healer. Across all of her offerings, she is passionate about empowering people to tap into the transformative power of their intuition to create a life they love. Follow Stella on Instagram @thesoulfulentrepreneur and visit her website to stay connected.
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